Why identity matters: the mind's first judgment, separation, and relating to others

Frederic says the common theme behind his questions is limitations, and that his attachment to limitation seems linked to a need for identity, that is, for separation; he asks why identity is so important and whether it is needed to navigate this dimension.

The Wonders say not really.

On incarnating he first created a mind, which decided it had to be in charge in order to survive and began to judge; that first judgment simultaneously created an identity ('I exist, I am, therefore I choose, I am in charge') and separated the mind from the you that includes both mind and soul essence.

So it is not that a need for separation created identity, but that the immediate choice to judge created separation while reinforcing identity.

As an infant he was then taught his identity - he is Frederic - and in this society names and identities matter for self-identification, which works mind to mind and ego to ego but not from a soul essence perspective.

As long as minds refuse to acknowledge that they are tools of the soul essence, identity is clung to in order to maintain the belief that they are in charge.

Once the soul reawakens and begins to command the mind, the mind resists in various ways but eventually acknowledges being a tool; self-identity then matters less, separation blurs, and the mind increasingly reflects and recognizes itself as an extension of the soul essence, able to relate to other minds as a oneness without separation, allowing far easier and deeper interaction with people.

Frederic applies this to job offers he is receiving: he does not feel he fits one category, but employers want to place him in a single identity, and without using that identity they do not know how to relate to him.

The Wonders point out his ego is involved - he wants others to recognize him in his fullness - whereas the practical path is to recognize that they are individuals who work at the level of identity, allowing them their illusions while maintaining his own awareness of the underlying reality and movement.

Used this way, when someone disagrees with him he can see quickly whether it is fear, judgment or circumstance behind it, and can defuse the disagreement to find commonality or fuel it to generate discussion, as he chooses.

They remark that his ego is very strong.